E : Eleanor Roosevelt “Do what you feel in your heart to be right—for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.”

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Eleanor Roosevelt

The woman behind the man and my favorite Political figure, who coincidentally married my favorite President. Eleanor Roosevelt was the whole package.

Born on the 11th of October, 1884 in New York City, as Anna Eleanor. Eleanor was plagued with misfortune throughout her childhood. Her mother and younger brother, Elliot Jr. both died of diphtheria before she was 10 and her beloved Father passed away from consummation when Eleanor was nine. Her surviving brother, Hall would also have trouble with alcohol later in life. Eleanor’s father, Elliot was Theodore Roosevelt’s younger brother. Theodore thought of neice as his own daughter.

Eleanor was painfully shy, insecure and hated public life. At 15 she was sent to London to attend Allenswood. It was there she found an interest in travel and becoming an intellectual. Eleanor would later state that her three years at Allenswood was the happiest of her life.

But then she was forced back to the States by her Grandmother, when she was 17 in order to attend her “coming out” party. An event she dreaded. Around that same year in 1902, she met Franklin (Her Father’s fifth cousin) and the too hit it off right away. She was part of the Oyster Bay Rooselvets and Franklin was a member of Hyde Park. After a whirlwind romance, they became engaged November 22, 1903. Again, Eleanor was faced with family backlash when her future mother-in-law requested they keep the engagement a secret for one year, in hopes that they’d call it off. Eleanor had hoped to find a maternal figure in her MIL, Sara Delano Roosevelt but unfortunately Sara was devoted to Franklin and always saw Eleanor as an outsider.

They were married on March 17th 1905 to accommodate the then sitting President and Eleanor’s beloved Uncle, Theodore. Theodore adored his niece and happily walked her down the aisle.

Before she was married Eleanor devoted her time to volunteer work, but stopped once she married. She had six children, Anna Eleanor, James, Franklin, Elliott, Franklin Delano Jr. and John Aspinwall. Her third child, Franklin did not survive past infancy. During World War I, Eleanor volunteered with the Red Cross and the Navy–Marine Corps Relief Society where she flourished. She felt a real sense of self-worth and against her mother-in-law’s wishes, Eleanor continued after the War had ended.

After Franklin was stricken with polio, many historians believe that Eleanor’s nursing background aided in her husband’s recovery. Especially during the height of his illness, where she probably saved his life.

Before Franklin’s diagnosis, Eleanor had discovered his affair with her social secretary, Lucy Mercer. The entire ordeal was humiliating and quite heartbreaking from a personal level. Franklin’s affair encouraged Eleanor to get out of the house and continued not just volunteer work but she learned how to type and write shorthand. She joined the League of Women Voters, where she made friends with veterans of the suffrage movement. The League would talk a lot about their plans for the future, puzzled Eleanor didn’t want to talk about what they wanted to get done, she wanted action.

Back to Franklin’s affair, this happened around 1918, and 10 years later, in 1928, she would help her husband become Governor of New York, and eventually the 32nd President of the United States. Their intimate relationship was over but Eleanor continued to take care of her husband. By helping him to heal not only his body but his mind, as well. It was Eleanor who encouraged Franklin to go back into Politics. His Mother discouraged him, wanting him to retire from public life completely.
…Imagine if he listened to his mother…

Eleanor may have started life as quietly as possible but as she matured and realized her own strength, Eleanor became a force to be reckoned with.
A fact many great women come to realize in themselves.

Eleanor was a champion of Women’s Rights. In the White House, she held the first Press Conference by a First Lady. This may not seem like a big deal but at her Press Conferences she would invite female journalists. Several being Female-Only Conferences, which forced many news outlets to hire female reporters. Prior to these Press Conferences women journalists were excluded from serious news.

Speaking of reporting, Eleanor wrote her own weekly column from 1935 to 1962, entitled, My Day. She wrote her thoughts about current affairs such as Pearl Harbor and many people consider this to be the closest thing to a diary Eleanor had kept. The only column she missed was the week Franklin passed away.

In 1946, President Harry S. Truman appointed Eleanor United Nations delegate. She focused on Human Rights and created the 1948 charter of liberties, The Universal Declaration of Human Rights. Many people consider this to be her legacy. Truman nicknamed her, “First Lady of the World”.

I think what I love most about Eleanor is that she was a sleeping giant. When I was younger, I was very quiet. I feel like society pushes people to hit the ground running and if you’re not the squeaky wheel then you won’t get oil. While this is true a lot of the time, Eleanor is a prime example that you can achieve great things later in life.
Your confidence will catch up with you.

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D : Daria Morgendorffer “there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can’t be improved with pizza”

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Daria Morgendorffer

Back when I was in elementary school, MTV was playing a Daria marathon. I was at my cousin’s house and we were busy playing that day, but I kept sneaking in to watch Daria. I felt like I was doing something wrong and that I had to hide it from everyone. Fast forward to High School and I’m enjoying it with my Mom and it doesn’t feel taboo at all.

Daria made her debut in the 1993 episode of Beavis and Butt-Head, Sign Here. Personally, I cringe at this fact, which to all you Beavis and Butt-Head fans out there I don’t mean to offend. I love Mike Judge but I just can’t watch Beavis and Butt-Head. But I digress. Being the incredibly intelligent, quick-witted female on the show; Daria was created as a foil for the boy’s stupidity. Producer, Judy McGrath gave Judge the note that the show needed a smart female character to bring in female viewers. In 1995, she was also the one who suggested that MTV should air more shows that would bring in a female audience.

Throughout Daria’s time on Beavis and Butt-Head, she would alternate between annoyance and amusement. In her second appearance, “Scientific Stuff”, Daria was assigned to do a presentation with Beavis and Butt-Head, she quickly turned a negative into her advantage and used the boys as test subjects. Daria would also hang out with Beavis and Butt-Head because it annoyed her parents, even though the guys used to call her “Diarrhea”. Creator Mike Judge picked the name Daria after a girl he knew in High School who also was referred to as Diarrhea.

Daria was a lot more willing to be involved when she attended Highland High in Beavis and Butt-Head. This changed when she became a series regular on the show. And changed drastically once she began attending Lawndale High. There, the only extra curricular activities were ones that were forced upon her or that she was pressured into.

Daria does not sugar coat. She tells people exactly what she is thinking about a situation, just look at the episode, The Misery Chick. Funny how her name Daria is Greek for “upholder of truth”.

In an Entertainment Weekly issue, series co-creator Susie Lewis gave an update on where Daria is in life. Basically, she is living in New York with her cat and working as the only female writer on a  late-night show. For more info on Daria and where her friends and family are now, click this link!

What do you think?
Spot on or disappointing?

Thank you for Reading!

Happy Wednesday 😀

 

C : Clarice Starling “Quid pro quo, Doctor.”

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Clarice Starling

Voted 6th greatest film hero by the American Film Institution, Clarice Starling is the highest ranked heroine on the list.

The whole idea of cannibalism always scared me off from watching Silence of the Lambs. As I got older I would start to take peeks and glimpses but it wasn’t until college that I actually sat down and watched the film in its entirety. And I must say, it’s one of those perfect films.

When creating the X Files, creator, Chris Carter has stated that Starling was a major influence when he was creating, Dana Scully. In fact, Starling inspired many women to join the F.B.I. in real life.

In the 2017 article, Why the Silence of the Lambs is a Feminist Fable, author, Nicholas Barber, explores the idea that “Silence of the Lambs is a film about what it’s like for women to be stared at by men”. At every turn, Starling is either being flirted with or objectified by men. Even Lector brings up a number of sexual topics with Starling, each of which she deflects.  The most interesting topic, Barber brings up is that in the male dominated world of law enforcement, Starling gets by firmly on her training. Where male heroes, such as James Bond save the day by being a rebel. Clarice Starling goes by the book.

Speaking of the F.B.I., after the agency had helped actress Jodie Foster with a death threat she had received, she wanted to make sure that the agency would be portrayed in the right light. She was worried after seeing director, Jonathan Demme’s film “Married to the Mob”. Fortunately, they were on the same page from the start. In fact, the F.B.I. was impressed with the realism throughout the film, the only issue being the ending where Starling finds herself alone with Buffalo Bill. Stating, they would never allow an inexperienced agent alone on a dangerous mission. According to IMDB, the F.B.I. stated, “it would be the most improbable and rare course of action of all time, never to be repeated again.”

In conclusion, Starling doesn’t allow anything to stand in her way. She trudges her way through male dominated waters, doing everything by the book, and coming out victorious. Her only bit of defiance being her game of Quid pro quo with Dr. Lector. Against the advice of, Jack Crawford, she does indeed allow Lector inside her head. And the two gain a level of respect for one another. Which ultimately works in her favor.

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B : Babs Bunny “This place is supposed to be wild, crazy, and completely out of control! [beat] Hope I’m not bored.”

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Babs Bunny

I grew up watching all the good ol’ cartoons.
Mickey & Minnie, Silly Symphonies, Merrie Melodies, Looney Tunes and Hanna Barbera to name a few. But I was also fortunate to catch Tiny Toon Adventures in its heyday and Babs Bunny was a HUGE role model for me.

She wasn’t afraid to be funny, outrageous or dramatic.
And above all else, she didn’t give a darn what people thought of her.

Something everyone, especially women need to embrace.

Babs, Buster, Plucky, Hamton and the rest are all counterparts to their “mentors” Bugs, Daffy and Porky. I think it was really interesting that the creators decided to make Buster the smooth, cool side of Bugs and Babs the more comedic, wild side. Usually, in film and television, women are the ones who have to rein the men in. It’s a refreshing twist.

As I’ve said in the past, I consider myself a natural feminist, because being a woman, I naturally found myself more interested in my gender. Can you blame me? Everyone wants to see themselves represented on the screen. But that whole issue is better left for another post.

Back to Tiny Toons, Babs found herself in a similar dilemma; in the 30th episode of Tiny Toons, Fields of Honey, Babs is inspired to find her female mentor, after each of her friends get to work with their male mentors. (Buster with Bugs, et cetera) Long Story Short: Instead of choosing Bugs, being the natural feminist she is, Babs goes on a search to find Honey. The female partner to Bosko one of the original toons from the Merrie Melodies.

When Tiny Toon Adventures went on DVD, I watched the behind the scenes commentary. Story Editor, Sherri Stoner, said that she was inspired by a personal experience from her youth. When she was in Kindergarten her teacher wrote on her report card, “Having Sherri in Kindergarten is like having a cartoon character in class. We’re going to work this year on curbing her wonderful enthusiasm.” Fortunate for her, Sherri’s mother went in and told that teacher exactly where she could stick her enthusiasm. But it also inspired Sherri because Babs was someone who would never allow her enthusiasm to be curbed.

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Happy Monday!

A : Arya Stark – “A girl is Arya Stark of Winterfell, and I’m going home.”

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Arya Stark

Game of Thrones is full of strong women, I could fill up most of this challenge gushing about how awesome each and every one of them are.

But for the purpose of this challenge, I will be sticking with easily my favorite Stark. The middle child of Eddard and Catelyn and infamous tomboy, Arya.

Pronounced ARE – yuh, according to author, George R. R. Martin, “I say it ‘Are-ya’, two syllables not three. Not ‘are-ee-uh’, not like an operatic thing, but ‘Are-ya’, very sharp. I wanted something that was like a knife, that was a sharp and hard sound, to be a contrast to the flowery ‘Sansa’.”

As a former tomboy myself, I don’t really like that term.
Why do we need titles?
Arya is just being Arya.

Arya is an easy character to rally behind.
She is clever, stubborn, independent and vengeful.

Vengeful is probably not a great quality but when you’re playing the game of thrones,
you win or you die.

Arya narrowly escaped Kings Landing and has had to survive pretty much on her own. Yes, she had people to lean on, Yoren, Gendry, the Hound but after she boarded that boat to Braavos and stepped through the doors of the House of Black and White she was on her own.

Arya decides to become a faceless man and begins to train under Jaqen H’ghar and the waif. She had to let go of Arya Stark and become “no one”. But after Arya learned that as a Faceless Man she would have to kill somewhat innocent people for “petty reasons” she realized that she rather kill bad people for good reasons.

Arya is also fiercely loyal.
Standing up for her beliefs, her family and the little guy, time and time again.

I sure hope Arya survives next season, until the end, at least…

Thank you for Reading!

 

HAPPY EASTER!

 

 

A to Z Challenge 2018

A to Z Challenge 2018

2016 was Disney,

2017 was Villians,

And 2018
is the year of Heroines!

This year I’ve decided to focus my A to Z Challenge to women who
I’ve admired, who have inspired me and just plain Bad Ass Women.

I’m going to include fictional, as well as, real life women, because don’t tell me that
Wonder Woman, Mary Richards and Hermione Granger
hasn’t inspired anyone to be
their best selves.

You may not agree with each of my choices but that’s the joy of choice.
There may be women who you admire that haven’t inspired me.
My friend who recently graduated from Medical School admires, Elizabeth Blackwell
the first woman to receive a medical degree in the United States.
I happen to admire the author and illustrator, Beatrix Potter.
Who are some of your Heroines?

I hope you enjoy the next 26 days.

Thank you for Reading
🙂

Army Wife Life January 2018

It’s been a good while since my last real Post.

So, here we are.

The last few months of 2017 were pretty testing. My husband had to go away for work for the most of October and a little of November. Which means he had to miss Bhaer’s first Halloween.

But it could be worse, it could’ve been Christmas.

My Grandma came to stay with me which was a very unique and special occurrence. Just having her around was helpful. I don’t know if this is something all wives feel but as a housewife, I mean, domestic engineer, life can get quite lonely when you’re home all day and your baby is only learning how to talk. So, having my Grandma here with me was a big help.


As for being an Army Wife, I’ve been pushing myself to get more involved.

I joined the Catholic Women of the Chapel last year but this year I’ve pushed myself to do more, I attend Faith Study and Knitting, which is a little tough since its Friday Nights.
(But its been so nice to knit again, I never realized how much I missed it!)

I also joined PWOC (Protestant Women of the Chapel), but so far its just been their weekly meetings.

The best thing to ever happen to our little family is finding NPSP (New Parent Support Program) Bhaer and I started Mommy and Me Playgroup in September and now we do just about every event they offer. It has really been a Godsend ❤

Aside from that I just keep my eyes peeled on MWR.
For example, Bhaer and I went to the tree lighting ceremony on Post.
(Saw the Big Guy and the Mrs….Bhaer was not amused.)


I am looking forward to the Spring because although I’m trying my best to keep busy,
this cold weather has been kicking our butts!

First Bhaer had the sniffles, then I got sick, then Stan got sick, then Bhaer, then me, then Stan again and fingers crossed this sore throat I got Tuesday morning will go away before Sunday’s Super Bowl Party!

Well, wish us Luck!

Thank you for Reading!!

 

Women’s March 2018 – “My BODY My CHOICE My COUNTRY My VOICE.”

Women’s March 2018

I am so proud and grateful of my gender.

To all of the Women [and men] who marched this weekend, I salute you.

I don’t mean to be a Debbie Downer but there are too many times when the best intentions go unfulfilled. But to think that so many people wanted to march and actually went to the streets to protest is just nothing less than inspiring.

It’s easy to feel hopeless in today’s world.

I’ve spent most of my life thirsty for female empowerment. I didn’t walk around the playground telling kids that Girls Rule and Boys Drool though I am sure those words did come out of my mouth more than once… No, I just wanted to know why everyone was a Boy. Boys had, Mickey Mouse, Goofy, Donald Duck, Pluto, Bugs Bunny, Daffy Duck, Porky Pig, Batman, Superman and Bart Simpson to name a few. Girls had, Minnie Mouse, Wonder Woman, Daisy Duck and Lisa Simpson. (Note Lola Bunny didn’t arrive on the scene until the ’90s.) I’m not saying that I disliked who we had, I just wanted more female characters.

Luke Skywalker was my favorite character because I desperately wanted to be a Jedi and it absolutely killed me that Leia never picked up a lightsaber.

I had to use my imagination a lot as a child, pretending to be Indiana Jones’s daughter, Anna, pretending to be Luke Skywalker’s daughter, Luca, pretending to be James Bond’s daughter, Jessica… my imagination was kinda limited okay.

But now my children will grow up in a world with a female Jedi! Wonder Woman is the favorite member of the Justice League! And Lisa Simpson….is, well, she’s still not a huge fan favorite but my friends and I sure love her!

Don’t get me wrong we still have a looong way to go, but let me say this, when I was a young woman, I felt like feminism was like 3D, something that made a comeback every few decades or so. I hate to say that but doesn’t it feel like we take one step forward only to be dragged three steps back? But now, I feel hopeful. This feels like the masses aren’t giving up anytime soon. And that feels pretty darn good.


Back to my weekend, I found this knitter on Instagram who found this real simple way to knit a P*ssy Hat. Being an extremely experienced scarf and pot holder knitter this was right up my alley. So easy in fact, I was able to finish the hat in a week. Just in time for the Women’s March!

I don’t want to sound like I’m making excuses because it really stinks that we couldn’t march this year. Unfortunately, there wasn’t a march in our town this year. We could’ve drove 3 hours to a bigger city but a germ has been making the rounds on my family until finally all three of us came down with a cough/sorethroat at the same time… hazar.

Click here for a picture of my new hat!

Again, I salute all of my sisters,
May our fires have an eternal flame.

Thank you for Reading.

 

I love being a Mom

I can’t believe I’m really a Mommy!

As I said in my second to last post, it’s been rather a long time since I actually had a chance to sit down and write. I feel like I’m constantly trying to do 5 things at once..unsuccessfully might I add.

I usually don’t like to toot my own horn or brag about my accomplishments.

I was raised to be humble and lovable 😛

So when people ask me, How do I like Motherhood? My go to phrase is: Oh aside from being tired, blah blah blah. I didn’t realize this, yada yada yada.

But the other night when my dearest Derby phoned, and simply asked me,
Do you love it?

I stumbled to get out my usual answer, stopped myself and just said,

Yeah, I do.

Because, yeah, I really do love being a Mom.

Don’t get me wrong, its hard having to think ahead whenever we go out.

I get self conscious when he starts crying in public. I’m trying to get over the whole stigma of breastfeeding him in front of people…(I actually fed him during lunch when we had our solo meal together downtown. (I didn’t make eye contact with anyone…))

But I know with time, as I get to know him and he gets to know me, things will get easier…and then a lot harder and then easier and then harder and so on and so forth.

Right now, I absolutely love spending my days with him.
Feed Him, Burp Him, Change Him.
Carry him while he sleeps.
I can’t wait for that moment when he will start kissing me back or when his little arms will reach out for me.

I can’t wait for when he starts holding my hand or when he’ll ask me to read to him or to draw for him.

But I also don’t want this time to end because this tiny little human is all mine.
Mine to me. And I’m all his.

Yes, I miss the “freedom” of just heading to a movie or attending a sip & paint but those are minor things that I’ll be getting back to soon enough.

For now, I’m just going to see where life takes me and enjoy the adventure.

Thank you for Reading